The best trick in the Big Book of Best Tricks is staying out of our own way. Having Our Way gets in our way. Wanting Our Way gets in our way. Getting Our Way gets in our way. The first rule Along The Way is DO NOT HAVE A WAY! Everyone thinks Wanting, Having, Getting their way is THE WAY. It is In The Way! If we hope to find our way to The Way, Our Way has to go.

Imposing our will for the situation at hand is an artificial demand for the situation which overrides our intuition, our sense of what is called for here, now, in favor of our desire for what we want to happen here, now. The intuitive sense of the natural flow of the here, now is to be preferred to our desire for the situation at hand. We know only what we want/desire and have no innate sense of what needs to be done from the standpoint of the here, now, which takes precedent over every other consideration.

No expectations, no desires, no willful insistence on having things our way. Just seeing, just hearing, just sensing/feeling, understanding, knowing what’s what and what’s happening, and what is called for, and what needs to happen in response, and doing it as it needs to be done, when it needs to be done, where it needs to be done in each situation as it arises, as “circumstances beget circumstances” (An old Taoist way of explaining the essence of “No beginning, no ending”) all our life long. This is the Way. All the way along the way. And we are here to see that our way does not get in the way.